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Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Two Way Road...




I was on my friend Facebook page and she had this status update that I keep thinking about... It was something like "Just because I consider myself your friend it doesn't mean you consider yourself mine... And that's OK. If I do for you, that's who I am. I have no right to expect from you in return...And that's OK"

Well well well...This is some heavy statement and somehow I don't think what I'm getting from it is the lesson that was meant to transpire. Now, I don't know what my friend thought of it -just saw a bunch of "likes" from friends- but she didn't elaborate...

Surprise surprise, I'm going to share my thoughts!

This is one of those statements, that for me, falls into the same basket as "If someone slaps you on the right cheek, turn and present him with the other cheek" it sound all good and dandy but shoot it makes no sense.
Why would I consider or call you a friend if there is no reciprocity in the sentiment? True enough you can't be everyone's friend just as much everyone can't be your friend but I sure won't be yours if you don't consider me for the title!
How funny friendship has a different meaning and manifestation depending on how old you are...
Remember  at a young age, kindergarten thru grade school, when you just had that 1 good friend, your best friend for life...
Then teenage year...this was the  popularity stage. All that matter was how many people you knew and wanted to be your friend.
Adulthood is when you became more selective and started to differentiate friends and acquaintances, you started to appreciate quality over quantity...

This past weekend I was over one of my "sisterfriend" house, catching up over drinks and good food while our kids were having fun; we started talking about the new year and what we will do different and I say to her " I definitely want to make more time for my friends" -see, I'm the kinda friend who you will always know that loves you because anytime I see or talk to you I will let you know that I do and you will feel it, but I'm also the same friend that you'll see least so...I want to make more time for my friends. To that she replied, "I agree with you but I'm also going to make room for new friends; I meet everyday so many people that want to be my friends and have a lot to offer so I want to have that door open"
I'm thinking, seriously??? where will you find the time? I can't even imagine.. I'm already trying to figure out  where and how I'll find the time to give more of me to the friends I have now between hubby, kids, work and some "me" time, let alone think about new friends

Friend + Relation = Friendship which is based from love, respect, loyalty. Friendship on a different level almost carries the same commitment, duty and work than a long term relationship/marriage... You have to make concessions, compromise, care, be there to support, forgive, be the shoulder to cry on, be the cheerleader, be non judgmental but honest, able to "tell it like it is" with love, when all fells be the one to pick up the pieces, when they successful be the one to cheer with "attaboy"...

So NO, I won't consider you a friend if I'm not an option in being yours,  that wouldn't be OK.
For my friends I will do and not expect anything in return and that's OK because that's who I am...
Don't sell yourself short by seeking friendship where it is none existent. The love, time and care you willing to put forth in any relation is all too precious to not expect it in return, always walk down a two way road...

And that's my 2 cents...
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