Saturday, June 16, 2012

The Father He Was meant To Be...

"None of you can ever be proud enough of being the child of such a Father who has not his equal in this world - so great, so good, and so faultless. Try all of you, to follow in his footsteps and don't be discouraged, for to be really in everything like him none of you, I am sure, will ever be. Try, therefore, to be like him in some points, and you will have acquired a great  deal"                                                
-- Queen Victoria of England

A mother, father, wife, brother, sister and friend’s point-of-view of the person you are, will always be different and skewed by the type of relationship that binds you together. Their views will certainly be different than that of a child…your child. Your progeny tale of who he knows you to be will really give the accurate version of ‘you’ to the world. Your child’s eyes are the mirror to your truth…~RS
I was complaining out loud today about the fact “the hubby” loves to purchase and watch all those cartoon movies. I also didn’t understand how it could be that my 12 year old son (who overheard me talking to myself) said, “Mommy, that’s what makes him so different and fun. Don’t you know that daddy is a big kid at heart?” My heart, at that instant, became overwhelmed with gratitude, joy and love at what I heard from my child. It was the confirmation of what deep down, I already knew (although it didn’t matter that I knew, what matters was that they knew). My loving husband had turned out to be the father he was meant to be all along…
What makes a man a father (more specifically, a dad) is not their aptitude to provide and secure safe grounds for his family, but it is his ability to do all the above and also go the extra miles that come along the way. A true father can do this, even at the disadvantage of neglecting the things he needs for himself. Being a father…a good father is what I witness every day, when I look at the father of my kids. I had asked him once, what having children taught him. His very candid answer was, “It made a selfish man, selflessly put HIMSELF last…in one word, become a DAD.” My husband is truly a selfish person at the core, who always hated to share, but for us (let me include myself in thisJ) he has learned to adjust and give without question.

Being a good dad is more than learning and mastering patience, or listening. When considering him as my husband to be, I had to visualize him as the father of my kid(s). I can truly say, in no uncertain terms, that my expectations have been met. He’s gone beyond any expectations I had, not only of making me happy, but the fact that everyday my children are feeling blessed to have him as a dad makes my heart burst. My foresight on who would be part of the life of the most important gifts given to me was accurate. He is their fun, their disciplinarian, their balance, their security, their role model, their teacher, their main person; he is their father…their dad.
To the best father I could ever have chosen to take on this amazing adventure called parenthood, you have made it more than easy for me and you are making it more than enjoyable for our kids. Continue being you; continue being ‘the big child at heart’ that we all love…

A Dad is respected because he gives his children leadership.
A Dad is appreciated because he gives his children care.
A Dad is valued because he gives his children time.
A Dad is loved because he gives his children the one thing they treasure most - himself.
~ Author Unknown (taken from a church bulletin)

Happy Father’s Day CBS!

  To loving thankfully...


  1. Je suis d accord avec toi , les hommes restent souvent très gamin mais heureusement pour nos enfants ....Car quand je vois Eric avec Thomas et Laura toujours occupés à jouer , se battre ,se chamailler parfois j ai l impression d etre la seule adulte dans cette famille mais les gosses adorent ça et ça depuis le début ...Je me souviens quand j ai annoncé à Eric qu il allait etre papa il m a dit qu il avait eu peur tout en étant content ,il avait eu peur de ne pas assurer ...Mais des le début il a tout géré c'est un père exceptionnel ,il a toujours été présent dès le départ changer les couches , se lever la nuit,les amener à l Ecole meme quand il avait travaillé la nuit ,se lever apres quelques heures de sommeil pour, aller les voir à leur activité , à leur spectacle ...Il à tjs été et est tjs là pour eux, pour nous je suis heureuse pour Thomas et Laura qu'ils ont cet homme , mon homme , comme model ...

  2. Very well written. Cheers to San and all the great Fathers out there. Truly a blessing. - Trudy

    1. Thank you Trudy for your comment!
      And yes this world is blessed with so many wonderful fathers that our sons can take example from...


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