Living Your Life or Living A Life Of Lies...

“We tell lies when we are afraid….afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.” ~ Tad Williams

Who can stand without an ounce of hesitation and proclaim that their life is free from speaking or spreading a lie(s), either maliciously or innocently? I believe that we all are guilty of that fault to an extent; not to say it is right but sometimes you can’t avoid it. Like when you want to spare someone’s feelings, or when preserving the lines you can’t rightfully cross while dealing with your superiors or elder.

I strongly believe that all truths don’t deserve to be told (i.e., keeping quiet) but when an answer is demanded…half-truths are recommended and a lie… a little “white lie” is occasionally apropos.

But when do you draw the line? When do you stop hiding behind the excuse that, “It is not for me or my benefit that I’m lying but for you and your protection?” When do you jump from occasional to everyday big lies; the ones that recreate you from your desire to be and not from the reality that is, ones that portray you as a person you’re not, and ones that put you in a light that doesn’t shine true… How do you go from the “occasionally” to “living the life”…living the life of lies? When does integrity lose the battle against ignorance?

The main reason any one chooses to lie is to project a better image or another life than what’s truly theirs. It is the lack of self-esteem and respect for who they are.

We all have the capability to understand and distinguish what’s right and what’s wrong; what’s considered acceptable in the society and environment we live in. Some may call it peer pressure, while wanting to adapt and fit in, but most would call it just synching in with society’s basic behaviour. However, free will is our given right. It is our opportunity to freely choose and decide the road you want to follow. We all have the choice to decide the path we want to take, even if that path is completely against the spectrum of what’s morally and socially acceptable. So why do some of us choose to live a life of lies, instead of living our real life?

Living a continuous lie (being unable to share what’s truly going on in your life, perpetrating a certain ideal other than the one that is truly yours, etc.…) or doing something in the shadows, that feels right for you when consciously knowing that anyone would think it is wrong and indecent behaviour is living a lie… “Living a lie” is doing something continuously that no one knows about or would approve. Living a lie is simply living a live that is not yours…

“Life is not a stage, where you get pay a fee to play pretend for a few hours of your day…”

-RS

Life is all about personal choices. What people fail to do is take a look into the future, weigh the consequences and impact of their decisions (good and bad) and the aftermath that these choices will bring. A happy life is living one where acceptance of all your decisions (right or wrong) is a given.

I’m not trying to promote bad behaviour and embrace it with an “F-you” attitude to the world. It’s not as if that is all it takes to be happy and finally true to oneself, because at the end of the day, even when you decide to live your life (live your choices, regardless of others opinions or advice), you will have to be strong enough to face the looks, the criticisms, and your own morals and values…

The truth which can at times bring misery will always be a better option than ignorance…

“Truth allows you to live with integrity. Everything you do and say shows the world who you really are. Let it be the Truth.” ~ Oprah Winfrey  

To a true life of truth...

RosieSandz

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