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Tuesday, September 4, 2012

“I will always love you”… The words put together I never want to hear…



Hahaha…Who think I’m crazy now? Who in their right state of mind wouldn’t like to hear and know that someone will always love them? I guess that person is me! I want to hear that you love me now strong and exclusively and not promises of forever we can’t predict…

I’m in love with you; I feel passion, possession, excitement, lust, chemistry, you’re “my everything”, my all, commitment…commitment to the moment. That euphoric feeling of being in love is one that everyone should experience at least once in a lifetime.
But while being in love is not a guarantee of forever, it is definitely the first step towards what could potentially be a real, substantial love…it is the base of a love relationship… the relationship you build for a lifetime.
In our journey from that first relationship to the mature person we end up being down the road, we all fall out of that “in love” mode at least once (if not more…), and when all its said and done we look back and say “really?, how did I even think that was it?” So obviously, not everyone we fall in love with will automatically be a candidate for a love relationship…

“I’m in love with you” tells me you are smitten by me, you have a carnal passion for me that takes over any other aspect of a relationship, that makes you overlook everything you’ve learned, that makes you forget your own Wikipedia page on “what to stay away from” until…well until reality slaps you in the face!
But I love youI Love you tells me you are committed; those 3 words tell me that you took the time to look over and get over your illusion of what is perfect. You’ve witnessed the different me from when we first met and you took time to know the real, honest me. When all my flaws came to the forefront and while I’m obviously not the perfect princess described in fairy tales, I am your princess whom you still enjoy romancing and claiming. 

Love is the summary of rollercoaster feelings, ups and downs; emotions. Love is affection, commitment, caring, security and trust. Love is getting to that stage where you are okay taking the risk to be vulnerable, to understand without necessarily agreeing and to share shamelessly your inner-self without fear of judgment from our lover. Love knows that while you lay everything that you are on the floor, you may get hurt, but that the love outweighs any negative possibilities…

Going from “I’m in love with you” to “I love” you is my ultimate journey. It is the stage where your relationship has finally anchored on solid ground.

I will always love you…
That moment when you ask you partner who you’ve been in a loving relationship with “do you love me?” and their response is “I will always love you” are words that I never want to hear coming from “the hubby”…
You all must think that I must have been hit on my head really hard or just talking out of my -you know what- but no… Those words put together sound so final, so “not looking forward to anything else”… People usually make statements like that in the height of their emotional rollercoaster. Seriously, how can you predict what you will feel for someone, way down the road? Unless you have a crystal ball and a magical soothsayer in your group of friends, you can’t predict the uncertainty of the human range of emotion. Life changes and people change right along with it… You might find out that what you thought was love, was really your desire to make love to me. You might find out that after years of being “in love”, you have run out and need to refill from a new vessel; another lover. I’m not saying that people can’t build a commitment that lasts the test of time, I’m merely saying that “I will always love you” sounds like there’s nothing to strive for; nothing more to hope for. 

I feel as though if in a relationship your partner can, at this moment, make a statement that he will always love you, it means that he is not looking forward to anything more than what he has now with you. It can mean, in fact, that he/she cares, doesn't want to see anything bad happen to you, he/she has affection for you, he/she respects and to a certain extent admires you, but that the excitement, the unknown or desire of it is gone. Isn’t there an excitement in not knowing what will happen? Isn’t that why we put our best foot forward when we meet someone we are interested in, and isn’t that why we get those butterflies in our stomach? It’s because we don’t know. We want them to like us and fall in love, but there are no guarantees…. And that, my friends, is the reason we are on cloud 9, why we smile so hard, and why we can’t stop thinking about that person; because we have them NOW, we know how they feel NOW. Don’t promise me that you will love me 25 years from now; tell me you love me today, and then 25 years from now, tell me you love me today. “I will always love you” gives a sense of submission to your situation. It gives a sense of settlement in what your relationship is, which we should not be mistaken for a sense of security.

With I will always love you; you have gained a roommate…but with I love you, you have the security of knowing there is nothing better…

“Loving someone and having them love you back
is the most precious thing in the world.”
~Nicholas Sparks


To letting love grow unpredictably…
RosieSandz 



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