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Monday, October 15, 2012

What Would You Give Your Life For?...


“…Sure there may be risk involved, but that's true for anybody. But you get through it and life goes on. And when it's all said and done there will be a little piece of immortality with Jackson's good looks and my sense of style, I hope. Please, please I need your support. I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.” …
~Shelby quote in Steel Magnolias

                               
“I'd rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing Special” … I can read this quote out loud over and over again as I love the sentiment, the principle and the thought behind it…but…where do we draw the line? Or should we draw a line?

Last night I watch “Steel Magnolias” (the remake) and even though I totally remembered the emotions I felt when I saw the original, back in 1994-1995 (I’m truly a sucker for them feel good or emotional movies…you’d think I could cry on command J), watching it this time brought back another flow of tears, uncontrollable tears, as it hit me even harder. I was sobbing, with snot dripping down my nose (thanking God that “the hubby” was fast asleep and my daughter had just left me to go to bed. She had already seen the movie and I would have never ever heard the end of it!) but then 10 seconds later, I was laughing hysterically through my tears at one particular scene. The one where M’Lynn is so upset and hurt that she is screaming her pain and she feels like she just wants to hit something, someone just to take her pain away. After that, Clairee grabs Ouiser, hides herself behind her as if she was a shield and then tells M’Lynn to go ahead and hit Ouiser… hysterical!

The emotions I felt this time around were very much different. While I remember being emotional, it sure was not to the level I felt last night and it was so clear to me why I was so out-of-sorts this time.
It was simply because I am a mother. And other than the joy she experienced, the anxiety, worry and that pain M’Lynn is feeling throughout the course of the movie are all feelings brought on by a situation that is my worst nightmare…

In the movie, “Steel Magnolias,” Shelby - who suffers from diabetes and who regardless of the doctor’s pessimistic prognosis in regards to the impact that carrying a pregnancy will have on her health - decided regardless of the risk to have a baby. She said, “I'd rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.”

Was that selfish on her part to want to bring a child in this world knowing the possible consequences? Was that self-regard on her part to want to fulfill her dream knowing that she might not be there to see it fully come to term? Was she just thinking of the moment and forgetting the consequences? Was she being egotistical,  not thinking of who could potentially be left behind? Your parents, your siblings, your husband… and that child you’re so willing to sacrifice everything for…

I thought of my children and prayed that if ever in that predicament, they will know to make the decision that will never jeopardize them being with us, being with me…
But isn't that “the pot calling the kettle black”, isn't that me being the selfish one? I know the joy of being a mother. I had that yearning of wanting to give birth. I know the pain of trying and having a hard time carrying through… so how could I not understand and want someone else dear to me to want to experience, to live that love?
My answer is again simple… I am a mother…

This situation is a worst-case scenario and hopefully I will never have to live it. Yes, there will always be a reason why you can’t do something but I would never want to be the road block in my child life.
There are so many “wonderful” things that we want to experience and the question is: are you going to let anyone stop you? So just where are you today, I don’t need to remind any of us how time is speeding ahead of us. It’s time to start living now…

Right now, right here, what 30 minutes of wonderful would represent for you? What will be worth achieving, acquiring, experiencing if only but 30 minutes?...
What comes to your mind as you read this question? A word, an image, a feeling or a thought…what is missing that if only you will feel complete once you realize it.
Write it down, pin it on your “must” board and let the piece of paper give you the motivation you need every time you walk in front of it…

To our 30 minutes of wonderful…
 RosieSandz

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