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Monday, December 3, 2012

The Road To Hell is Paved With Good Intentions...

 "Hell is full of good meanings,but heaven is full of good works"

Call me naive if you wish, but I believe that we were all created with a heart filled with gold, and a mind filled with love. I also believe that most of our actions stem from our best intentions. I mean, who would wake up in the morning and plot on how many people they’ll hurt that day? Or, who thinks of how many lives they can destroy with their actions; or simply with words… But it happens… It happens every day when we become about ourselves. It takes place when self-less people become selfish, and when the consideration of others is taken from our priorities. This happens when caring becomes self-fulfillment, rather than an outpouring of goodwill towards others. We lose sight. We chose to overlook the simple rules of “cause and effect,” which explains that the results of our actions can be hurtful or offensive to others. Although the most obvious, malicious intend is not the only guaranty of targeting someone and wanting to cause them harm, disregards of one’s person will also be a good indication that wrongdoing is to be expected..

Intent Isn't an Excuse…

“That was not my intent.” How many times have we all heard and said that? “That’s not what I meant to say/do.” The problem is, all too often it translates into, “Your reactions to what I did are invalid because I didn't mean any harm.” And all too often we expect the recipient to just drop it and accept those 5 little words put together as an excuse; as the eraser for the offense… and they are supposed to move on.
You hear people say, "Well, I meant to do it, my intentions were good ... I wanted to but this came up and that came up and I ended up doing nothing." So, what were your true intentions? What did you mean to say, accomplish or solve? Why is it that now you are not seeking for what was the intended goal and are content with, “oh well I've tried…”
Good intentions without genuine actions won't do any good. You might intend on doing something for someone but if you don't follow through, your intention didn't matter. If you don’t put your best foot forward, no good will come out of it.

The most undeserving of all types of people are the Selfish people... and remember that selfishness takes many different forms, but they are all typified by those who think of themselves before all others... While you can pretend to care and have good intentions toward others, the commitment to “said” actions will unveil your true colors and at the end of the day, you will be only fooling yourself by hurting others. Your reward will be eternal loneliness and isolation from the rest of circle. Selfishness gives them exactly what they seemed to have wanted; isolation.

So then there goes the saying ... the road to hell is paved with good intentions. 

“What man ain't the honestest cove in his own eyes?
" Grote's round face is a bronze moon in the dark. "
It ain't good intentions what paves the road to hell: it's self-justifyin's.”
~David Mitchell

We like to hide our offenses behind “good intentions” and think that this gives us absolution. Finding justification for all of our wrongdoings doesn't clean the slate; it just covers up the offense. Keeping up with this kind of attitude is how we end up creating our own hell. As I said earlier, I truly believe in that “heart of gold” we were all given when we entered this world, there yet lies the potential for evil. With age, experience, and life’s journey, we shape and change (for the good and sometimes for the bad) that inborn gift given to us.

Ultimately, a strong sense of right or wrong and acting genuinely on all of your good intentions will make your life worthwhile. Selfishness and self-absorption will be your definitive one way ticket to personal hell…
While we all are capable of sporting a convincing poker face, and profess (loud and clear) our good intentions when we know the lack there of - for most of us - guilt will find a way to creep in. Guilt will be felt even if (and actually especially) when only you know of your fault. Any wrongdoing done consciously or in ignorance rides on our shoulders, however; only a conscientious person can feel the pangs of guilt. Guilty conscience is the MOST hurtful experience one can have. It is the most direct attack on our ego, and also the most potent because it is self-generated.

“Let your intentions be good - embodied in good thoughts, cheerful words, and unselfish deeds - and the world will be to you a bright and happy place in which to work and play and serve”
~Grenville Kleiser


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