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Tuesday, December 31, 2013

12/31/2013... Words Left Unsaid...

What if today was your last day will there be Words left unsaid…will there be things left undone?



Traditionally, with the New Year we make new resolutions, commitments to change something, to start something or to improve something in our lives as we feel we missed on or should have done better.
The New Year is synonymous with fresh starts and beginnings for the year ahead. It is turning the page and seeking new adventures, new goals. But what if proper closure wasn’t achieve to all you wished for, tackled and taken upon during the year ending, do you just turn the page and chug it as a lost? Does the New Year serve as a free pass, a start over without accountability?

Let’s dig deeper on the brink of this New Year…

I have realized that I have so many things left “un-tackled”, “unresolved” that coming up with new resolutions felt so hypocritical to myself. I tend to move forward even if I have half achieved goals because I figure there always is time to get back, look back and finish what I couldn’t at the time. But…what if...
What if you knew today was your last day and not just the beginning of a new year?  What would you do differently? Are there things you’ve left unsaid?  Is there someone in your life you’ve been meaning to say “I’m sorry” to or “I love you”? Maybe there’s nothing left unsaid—but do your friends and family know you care? Have you started to pave your legacy the way you’ll be proud of? What if today was your last day will you leave this life content or wishful of having finished what you once started but didn’t care to finish?

“Positive words left unsaid are like sachets of currency notes burnt in vain. Positive deeds left undone are like deep wells filled with soil to the brim. Do the undone, say the unsaid and turn the unturned.”
~ Israelmore Ayivor

So I end this post by asking you “If today was your last day, what would you wish you had done differently?” but if there is an answer to give, please don’t answer… Your life is the platform to mould your wishes, start today…make the different happen!

Happy New Year my Friends…


To the continuation of yesterday towards a rewarding tomorrow…
RosieSandz

Monday, December 30, 2013

Facing Myself In My Lonely Road...

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not;
and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
                                     ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow



It’s time to stop hiding and embrace all your blessings and be happy again...

I usually know all the right things to say, all the right things to do, and I even know what is expected of me. I have no fallacies about what is thought of me at any given moment, primarily because I know it is in direct response to what I am putting out of myself. But even with that priceless knowledge, I can’t manage to be what will make me ultimately happy…
I feel like I’m losing the battle against the “holy trinity” of self-love - believing in myself, being content with myself, and accepting myself.

I’d like to believe that I’m very in touch with who I am. Over the past few years, I have embarked on this journey of working on myself and finding my purpose. The foremost thing I’ve searched for is to understand the ins and outs of every turn I have taken in life, or the ones I’m getting ready to take. And while this has been one of the most rewarding journeys, in learning and becoming aware of my own Life Lessons, it is also one that has shaken me to the core, bringing concerning doubts, anxieties, and shining a light on where stability is needed…                                                 
I close my eyes, and how I picture myself is me standing and swinging my arms aimlessly, kicking blindly, trying to fight away this feeling of depression that seems to want to take me over… slowly and insidiously – yes, like “The Conjuring.”
I open my eyes and wonder how did I let things get to this point? How did I allow myself to abuse the button that controls my contentment? When did I give myself the power to threaten my happy?

Going on about 3 years now, I have had trouble sleeping, no matter how exhausted I am. Once I’m asleep it only last for a few hours and as soon as I wake up, I can’t get back to sleep. I have conditioned my body and my brain to function with the bare minimum of sleep and to consider any 8 hour period of sleep, a moment’s luxury.
I have become somewhat of an introvert because when I’m around other people or amongst my friends, it’s gotten to the point where I can’t find the strength to put on a smile and pretend to be ok. I go out with friends and I just struggle to join in with conversation and be “happy.” I’d rather retire to a corner and just be. The realization of my disposition is so blatant that I end up struggling to hold back tears.

When did I become this person that will shy away from human interaction? The more impersonal it is, the more comfortable I am. Work has given me the purpose and the sense of accomplishment I need. The hubby and my babies are my sanity as they are giving me the love, validation and the sense of security I need. My spirituality is my salvation but I’m so empty inside AND I know that I don’t want my world to be this limited… It never was…what happened?

“Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.”
~Alan Cohen

It has been creeping up on me… My favourite thing to do now is be on my computer, my favourite place to be is in my bed, my favourite people to be around is me, myself and I. I've been feeling terrible for a while and I know a mild depression has set in; but the only problem is that I have absolutely no reason to feel like this. I have a beautiful family, good friends, a good job, etc. But I always feel discontentment, I always feel challenged and that my life isn’t where it needs to be. Many of the things I once enjoyed, I've now completely lost interest in and can't find any motivation inside me whatsoever. I haven't talked about it to anyone because there really is no reason in my life for me to feel this way, I just do... but those close to me have noticed and I owe it to them to face whatever it is that is keeping me in a lethargic standstill… I’m like that kid in the classroom that everyone keeps two eyes on, praying that I don’t go on a rampage in the school. You know the ones - the kid who has a beautiful home, complete with mom, dad, sister, dog, cat and 2 goldfish. The kid who usually has a trust fund, a letter of acceptance from any Ivy League College of their choice, and that received a Mercedes convertible for on their 17th birthday. They seemingly have not a care in the world – but for some reason beyond anyone’s comprehension, they’re not complete. There’s no logical reason for me to be stuck in emotional limbo, in fact, I have every reason in the world to shout how happy I am from the mountain top. Maybe it’s my perception that needs adjustment…

A while back I wrote about not letting anyone steal your happy; well it is time for me to start looking within as I am stealing my own.                                                 
I need for the Hubby to stop looking for the Rose who’s just breathing, but to have her back alive instead…
I need for my babies to know that mommy is more than a loving provider but a loving parent who wants to have fun with them…
I need for my friends to no longer have to hear from me, “Sorry, I’m not keeping in touch/don’t want to hang out, but I love you.” Instead, I need to make time for them…
BUT mostly, I need to look at myself and let go of the need for more.
Instead of blaming others for stealing my joy, I need to reclaim it from myself.
I need to let life and love in because I’m deserving of the gift and attention…
I need to reach out to those I’ve willingly and unwillingly pushed away…
I need to reach for that energy that allows us to participate and fully enjoy life…

And maybe all I need is to look back over my life, and give thanks for where I am….

“‎"Nothing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs.”

~Marianne Williamson
RosieSandz

Sunday, December 29, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.”
~Andrew Murphy



“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
~Marianne Williamson

What a powerful statement that speaks so loudly on my actual state of mind…
Acceptance, contentment, recognizing our own true potential and ability are the keys to true happiness.
The issue is not fear; the issue is letting fear disable you instead of motivating you….
While we might be limited in what we can accomplish, our mind should always be full of limitless possibilities

RosieSandz

Friday, December 27, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about Discontentment and Greed… WHERE DOES IT END?

“There is a story about a wealthy farmer who was once offered all the land he could walk on in a day, provided he came back by sundown to the point where he started. To get a new start, early the next morning the farmer started covering ground quickly because he wanted to get as much land as he could. Even though he was tired, he kept going all afternoon because he didn't want to miss this once in a lifetime opportunity to gain more wealth.
Late in the afternoon he realized the condition he had to fulfil to get the land was to get back to the starting point by sundown. His greed had gotten him far enough. He started his return journey, keeping an eye on how close he was to sundown. The closer it got to sundown, the faster he ran. He was exhausted, out of breath and pushed himself beyond the point of endurance. He collapsed upon reaching the starting point and died. He did make it before sundown. He was buried and all the land he needed was a small plot”

There is so much I have to learn from this story, so much truth…
 “I would rather be what God chose to make me than the most glorious creature that I could think of; for to have been thought about, born in God's thought, and then made by God, is the dearest, grandest and most precious thing in all thinking.”
~George MacDonald


Happiness stares at me but the need for more, for different blinds me at time from my blessings…
RosieSandz

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.
                                      


This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about RECOGNIZING AND ACTING UPON YOUR BLESSINGS… YOU WILL BE FAVORED

 “A flood was threatening a small town and everyone was leaving for safety except one man who said, "God will save me. I have faith." As the water level rose a jeep came to rescue him, the man refused, saying "God will save me. I have faith." As the water level rose further, he went up to the second storey, and a boat came to help him. Again he refused to go, Belying, "God will save me. I have faith." The water kept rising and the man climbed on to the roof. A helicopter came to rescue him, but he said, "God will save me. I have faith." Well, finally he drowned. When he reached his Maker he angrily questioned, "I had complete faith in you. Why did you ignore my prayers and let me drown?" The Lord replied, "Who do you think sent you the jeep, the boat, and the helicopter?"

Praying is putting your energy into someone higher than you, and projecting it out to the universe. Believing in God is acknowledging that he will be by your side to help you and support you. In giving us free will, he gave us the opportunity to accept responsibility for our lives. Don’t just wait, wonder and wish… Instead prepare, plan and take action for a chance of a flourishing life. NO ONE but you can do your work…

RosieSandz

Sunday, December 8, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

FORGIVENESS...

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.”
                                          ― Nelson Mandela



Madiba, you came and through example you taught, through perseverance you achieved and through your forgiving heart you have shown an entire nation a path to true freedom…
Your legacy is one of acute thinking, having empathy toward those who wish you wrong, the importance of personal integrity, and persistence. I read somewhere "that spirituality stems from a sense of commonality with others - and with all things. Mandela seemed to have that sense and it informed his dealings with others, and his insight into himself."
Thank you for your legacy. RS

“I eventually came to understand that in harboring the anger, the bitterness and resentment towards those that had hurt me; I was giving the reins of control over to them. Forgiving was not about accepting their words and deeds. Forgiving was about letting go and moving on with my life. In doing so, I had finally set myself free.”

~Isabel Lopez

RosieSandz

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.

Example is the main source of motivation; it is the most influential dynamic driving us. While we don’t always get to choose the source of whom or what is being displayed around us we have the sole responsibility on how we perceive it and how we apply it to our lives…Positively or negatively.



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about The Source of Your Motivation…

POSITIVELY OR NEGATIVELY we chose the energy of our motivation!
This is a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunk who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment, could be so different. The first one was asked, "How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. What motivates you?" He said, "My father." They asked, "What about your father?" The reply was, "My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am." They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. "How come you are doing everything right? What is your source of motivation?" And guess what he said? "My father” was his answer. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind that the person he was is not what I wanted to be."

Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it positively and the other negatively”.



RosieSandz

Monday, December 2, 2013

Family Matters... When Money Shouldn't Matter...

“...the love, respect, and confidence of my children was the sweetest reward I could receive for my efforts to be the woman I would have them copy.”
~ Louisa May Alcott



Yesterday, one of my sister-friends sent me a message, asking me for my thoughts and perspective on something that had just happened within her family over Thanksgiving weekend…
Her husband’s family has a vacation home where the entire family got together. This particular gathering included her husband’s oldest brother, the brother’s girlfriend, and her two children. They had all come together to spend the holiday.
Over the weekend, she noticed that her 2 year old daughter was not comfortable around one of her brother-in-law’s girlfriend's son. It was confirmed when he tried to pick her up and she screeched and yelled as if she was afraid. At that point, and subsequently in a few more occasions over the weekend, my sister-friend told him not to pick her daughter up and not to play with her because she was "too little."
In addition to her natural motherly instinct, telling her that something wasn’t right, (upon departure) other members of the family voiced that they felt as if the boy was bullying/antagonizing her little girl.
She decided to reach out to the matriarch of the family, her M-I-L, to get some insight on how she should approach the situation with the boy’s mother. The feedback she received left her very upset; sad but mostly disappointed…
Her MIL said “maybe you need to really sit down and re-evaluate your feelings.” She proceeded to say over text that she also heard her grand-daughter cry but was told it was because she had slammed her finger in the door...
It is an unfortunate fact that her M-I-L favours her oldest son over the other siblings for the sole reason that he is financially secure. Her reaction, instead of coming from a position of “let’s try to keep peace for peace’s sake,” validated the extent of her favouritism regardless of who is/what is the collateral damage. She would rather not upset her eldest son’s girlfriend (which would obviously upset him), instead of trying to be fair and objective in the situation. I mean, God forbid he hears that he is anything but a perfect man, with a perfect girlfriend who has perfect kids….

So what are my thoughts?
So many things come to mind… So many red flags go up, so many “no-no’s” present themselves, so many of nature’s rules were broken… cardinal rules…

One thing I have learned during 14 years of being a parent is that from the time our children acquire the capacity to learn new things; they instinctively and simultaneously learn independence.  And with age, they learn how to voice their concerns… when they deem it worth sharing. However; this doesn’t give us a free-pass on awareness, especially dealing with little ones. We have to be observant, readily looking for clues and interpreting those clues, so we can catch any red flags…
As parents we must remember the Number One Cardinal Rule of Being a Kid is that they will come to us only for advice in the most dire of circumstances (definition of “dire circumstances”: things like epidemics, fires, and frogs raining down from the heavens!!!) This rule, of course, becomes harder for them to obey as they become adolescents, and feel as though they can fix or deal with “it” on their own. For our babies which can’t express themselves we need to read their cry for help through their behaviour, reactions and actions as they rely on their display of emotions to tell the tale of what brings them pleasure or what bring them fear… so as parents we need to have our own Number One Cardinal Rule, and that is, if a child comes to us with something viewed as a problem either by voicing it or by displaying a behaviour that grants concern, we need to pay strong attention because it means something… It means that there is a problem. We have to learn to read the signs of their behaviours… Bullying (or tormenting in any way) the weak is also a cry for help and shouldn’t be ignored by sweeping the behaviour under the rug…

“As a mom, I know deep within my core that there isn’t a situation on this earth that would make me decide to put my kids in danger. Neither would I hesitate to protect them first and foremost before myself or anyone else… The ONE thing I pray to be spared of is to be put in a situation where I would have to choose between saving one of my children over the other… That’s the one thing that I couldn’t stomach, couldn’t decide… I couldn’t live with!”

This is a statement I made back in June of 2012, in my post Parents Choice-less Choice. This situation reminded of how true and relevant this statement was. However; it’s apparently not a universal sentiment, as some people can easily make a choice based on a false sense of security, compromising the very core principle, the very cardinal rule of being a parent to more than 1 child…

It is too easy to lose sight of what really matters in life; the relationships, goals and passions that really deserve our time and most precious resource of all… our energy. We at times forget that all the decisions we make work together to determine who we are. All our decisions reflect our view of life, our view of ourselves, and our view of the future.
When we decide to have more than one child, the number 1 rule (which truly shouldn’t be a rule but an innate behaviour/attitude) is that all of our children have equal parts of your heart and should be given an equal display of that love. And with that, righteousness should always prevail over any other factors that might come into play…

For me, as a mother, my nurturing and protective instinct is always on the forefront when my children are in play. In my personal life, I see that instinct being developed in a higher degree from my mother/M-I-L as it relates to their grandkids… Hell, even when they don’t deserve protection they are being protected by their “gladiator” grandma!
So for me, when I read my sister-friend’s dilemma, just like her, I was sadden by the fact that her M-I-L didn’t get, and appreciate the fundamental guidelines of her role as a grandma’ but even deeper… her role as a mother.
To feel connection with one child over another is at times normal, especially in specific circumstances or events, depending on how everyone reacts. However, to make it a well-known fact of where you preference lies, based on selfish, skewed reasons like “a sense of security,” “who is more accomplished,” or “who can provide more for me,” make all “acts of love” or lack thereof, seem questionable.

There are undeniable risks and dangers in blinding ourselves and seeing only what we believe or what is convenient for us and our comfort level. As a parent, it requires discipline and self-control to treat our children equally. There will be hard decisions. There will be pain. There will be suffering. But in the long run, you will be rewarded for following your heart and giving more weight to what is right or wrong, versus what would benefit you. Earthly riches are temporary; they do not last and are ultimately unsatisfying. So this is my take/my advice to you…

“You were the gladiator mom. You were aware and present, which enabled you to read the cues and protect your babygirl. Have a small convo with your brother-in-law’s girlfriend as maybe she is blind-sighted by her love. She could also just be oblivious to the red flags raised by her son’s behaviour and ultimately it will be her choice on how she chooses to handle the information.
As far as your M-I-L, I come from the school of, “don’t leave anything unsaid if it comes from a place of love”. You need to let her know that every day she is given opportunities to show unconditional love and compassion, with “small acts of love”. And as a grandma, those opportunities are expectations that shouldn’t be wavered. If we aren’t careful, we may fail to see those opportunities because we’re too busy, too stressed, and too caught up in what’s happening in our own lives. And it’s certainly not worth damaging the innate trust that she will always be the gladiator to her grandkids… no matter what. Open your eyes to the needs of others, have the courage to do what needs to be done, and be concerned about investing in the condition of her soul for eternity, instead of being concerned of not offending her “financially secure” older son…”

Love, peace and compassion should be the driving force when dealing with our children…


RosieSandz

Sunday, December 1, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

My Sunday Quote of The Week…

Memories…

“Indeed, I believe that memories are the only real treasure
any human can hope to hold always.”
― Gary Jennings



Have you ever heard a song from so long ago with so many memories tied to it that it made you cry? Don’t you wish with that you could go back into time when everything seemed so much nicer and easiest? And of course this is all in retrospect…after growing from the life lessons. Those are songs, those are the soundtrack of our lives… the ones that bring back childhood memories, best friends, and first love, first mistakes…all of our firsts. The ones that bring back the happies in our lives and the heart-breaking ones to our souls…  The ones that bring back the memories.
Stand up, close your eyes and take a few steps. Can you imagine what it is like to be blind or just not remembering what use to be or where things use to be? After just a couple steps you will probably be disoriented. It is so unnatural for us to walk without looking where we are going, without a memory of our surroundings yet we precisely do “that”…we take things for granted.

“Think of two people, living together day after day, year after year, in this small space, standing elbow to elbow cooking at the same small stove, squeezing past each other on the narrow stairs, shaving in front of the same small bathroom mirror, constantly jogging, jostling, bumping against each other’s bodies by mistake or on purpose, sensually, aggressively, awkwardly, impatiently, in rage or in love – think what deep though invisible tracks they must leave, everywhere, behind them!”
― Christopher Isherwood

Remember EVERY moment of your life is a memory you will cherish at some point in your journey because it will have given you a purpose to learn and share, a reason to grow and change and the will to keep on creating more memories.

Listen to the soundtrack of your life…
RosieSandz

Friday, November 29, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life

“You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you,
none can make you spiritual.
There is no other teacher but your own soul.”
― Swami Vivekananda



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about The Importance of Not Judging…


There was a man who made living selling balloons at a fair. He had all colors of balloons Including red, yellow, green. Whenever business was slow, he would release a helium filled balloons into the air and when the children saw it go up, they all wanted to buy one. They would come up to him, buy a balloon and his sales would go up again. He continues this process all day. One day, he felt something tugging his jacket. He turned around and saw a little boy who asked,” If you release a black balloon, would that also fly?” Moved by the boy’s concern, the man replied with empathy.” Son, it is not the Color of the balloon, it is what inside that makes it go up.”
RosieSandz

Friday, November 15, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.


This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about Struggles...

“A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.
The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.
When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died”

RosieSandz

Sunday, November 10, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“You do not need to work to become spiritual. You are spiritual; you need only to
remember that fact. Spirit is within you. God is within you”
~Julia Cameron

  
With maturity I have come to learn how to reconnect with God… Where I struggled with religion, its organized set of rules and beliefs, the concern with “things”, I am finding my way through spirituality… Spirituality is a private, personal journey which began with the realization that there is someone, something, somewhere bigger than me, looking over me and guiding me. It’s making a conscious effort to remain open. This journey has taken me on the road to figuring out the WHY of life, the reasons for every waking moment. While you need spirituality to sustain any religion, you don’t need religion to sustain your spirituality…

Religion is what man has done to the gift from God. Spirituality is what God does to man. I do consider myself to be a spiritual person as I can’t deny all the blessing in my life, in life. I am learning to grow from within seeking understanding for all that surrounds me and letting my soul be my guide, my teacher.
I am on a journey of Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth, because no matter what I go through, no matter what I witness, and no matter what the answers is to all the “whys” in my life the source of it all is always The One and Only. It teaches me to make my own decisions and accept responsibility for those decisions…

“Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins.”

~Jim Rohn
RosieSandz

Friday, November 8, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about DESIRE... Burning Desire...

A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the river. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, 'What did you want the most when you were there?" The boy replied, "Air." Socrates said, "That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it."


There is no other secret…
RosieSandz

Sunday, November 3, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“God has promised forgiveness to your repentance, but He has not promised tomorrow to your procrastination.”
~Augustine of Hippo
                                     


Time is on my side…. NOT really…

I read somewhere a long time ago, “Life is too short for those who live, too long for those who survive, too tough for those who endure, and easier for those who learn.”
We like to think that time is our greatest ally, and so we decide to not look at our clocks, because all the things that are done without a timeline, or without pressure, will be well achieved… or so we believe. We decide to hold off on taking stands, apologizing, and giving forgiveness because we count on tomorrow to be a "better" day to move forward, let go and change… but all the while we forget. We forget that time doesn’t stop or adjust itself to suit the rhythm of one’s life… time keeps ticking…

I have come to realize this moment, today is of the essence; time is of the essence and needs to be treated as a rare commodity. At the end of the day, all that you touch, all you see, and all that you have is all your life will ever be... today.
You have no guarantee but this moment, this day to make the changes needed… to make meaningful decisions. So put on your helmet and pads and venture forth! You may get knocked around a little, you may make mistakes but what's a roller coaster ride without a few bumps?

Life can be as short as today’s sunset but can be as long as tomorrow sunrise; so remember it should be worth something especially if it is short. If you're waiting to do right, you could end up with a useless, long, fruitless life… 

RosieSandz   

Friday, November 1, 2013

Deep Tought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about CHALLENGES… THE UNEXPECTED GIFTS…

“I asked God for strength, that I might achieve.
I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey . . .

I asked for health, that I might do greater things.
I was given infirmity, so I might do better things...

I asked for riches, that I might be happy.
I was given poverty, that I might be wise...

I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God...

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life.
I was given life, that I might enjoy all things...

I got nothing I asked for--but everything I had hoped for.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.
I, among all men, am most richly blessed”


Take time to understand this poem... What meaning do you take away from it? What lesson(s) are you learning from it?...

RosieSandz

Friday, October 25, 2013

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.


This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about TO FORGIVE AND FORGET OR TO FORGIVE AND LEARN…

Jim and Jerry were childhood friends but for whatever reasons, the relationship fell apart and they hadn't spoken for 25 years. Jerry was on his deathbed and didn't want to enter eternity with a heavy heart. So he called Jim, apologized and said, "Let's forgive each other and be done for the past." Jim thought it was a good idea and decided to visit Jerry at the hospital. They caught up on 25 years, patched up their differences and spent a couple of hours together. As Jim was leaving, Jerry shouted from behind, "Jim, just in case I don't die; remember, this forgiveness doesn't count."


Take time to understand the story... What meaning do you take away from it? what lesson(s) are you learning from it?...
RosieSandz

Monday, October 21, 2013

Even If...



“Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore.
It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
~Deborah Reber
 
 
 
Sometimes you have to face the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be... even if... Once you understand this basic principle, you can now begin the difficult process of tending to your wounds, and healing.
 
Although, my first sentence could be one that shows relief, or a benediction of sorts, because it can allow you to free yourself from regret and look towards the future. Unfortunately, for me it’s not that easy... The reason I’m having these thoughts is not because I'm accepting and moving forward but because while I'm doing those things, I'm still missing the way things were... Some people can adapt to change quickly and move on from wherever they were. Then there are others who get so comfortable in a situation or a place, that when they leave (or it’s taken from them) they feel as though they’re having an asthma attack, losing air by the second.
 
So many things have changed in my life in the past few years. And while I'm doing great (by many people’s standards), trying to manage all these thresholds, and going on planned and unplanned road trips, I'm not doing so well in staying focused on what's ahead...
 
I came back early from one of my trips the other day; the hubby picked me up and we decided to surprise our baby-girl by picking her up from school. I can't even begin to think of when the last time was, that she had her mom and dad pick her up. We got close to her school and parked where we knew she would usually walk by, on her way to her marraine (godmother) and we waited... After 10 minutes, I see this familiar silhouette getting closer to the car. She is walking, while looking at her phone.  She is wearing black, cropped, skinny pants, a beautiful black "see-through polka dot shirt", and LV loafers. Her hair is pulled back into a low ponytail... I'm looking at myself walk pass the car I'm sitting in... When did this happen? Where is she? I opened the car door and yelled, "JAZZMENINA!"
Yes, it's baby-girl...
 
A year ago, I would've picked up the phone and called a few friends who also have daughters and shared with them the craziness of life, and compared the "changes," just to get reassured that no, I'm not going crazy by wishing she was still a baby girl; instead of this cloned alien in my home. But along with the kids growing up and life happening, things have changed... Relationships have changed or have been lost. It’s easy when you get rid of that pain in your back you’ve been living with for years; you’re happy to see it leave. What about when what you’ve lost is the thing that made your heart happy? There’s no “going away party.” Sometimes there are just tears.  
 
Maybe I didn't nurture it the way I should have
Maybe I didn't put in the effort needed to salvage it
Maybe I wasn't as understanding as I should've been
Maybe it just wasn't meant to last a lifetime and
Maybe time was up...
 
We learn to live with what we’re missing, building up walls that make everything seem alright. This is of course, until the day you want to pick up the phone or that moment you need to text that 1 person you know will understand you and you can't...
It is truly amazing the changes a year’s span can bring into your life. I said it so many times, today is the result of everything I could've taken from yesterday, from the past... Things are the way they are for a reason and while it is hard to let go of certain things, people and memories, we have to come to terms with it. Even if a mistake was made, today is the natural, the organic result. Today is ALL you have. So please feel free to make the most of it.
 
So yes, sometimes you have to face the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be... even if you miss them dearly... But the good news is, today you have a chance to make new alliances with happiness. We all have to make those steps and take that course of action. Here’s to the future…
RosieSandz

Sunday, October 20, 2013

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
― C.G. Jung



It is easier said than done, and that is why it is a process to really find out who you are - truly. To be authentic means to find the key to happiness and success within one’s self, without being dictated to by society or by trying to conform and fit in. When you are comfortable thinking for yourself and creating your own needs and desires, then (and only then), you are being authentic.
When you live an authentic life, you are living the life that resonates with your soul because you are in line with your true beliefs. You will find yourself spiritually elevated. You will be thinking of human-kind, rather than self. You won't be afraid of truth, and will deal with your fears in a better way. You will be able to feel unapologetic about who you are, your decisions and your circumstances.

Be your authentic, truthful, genuine self! No pretence, no fa├žade…
Understand that all there is, (which matters) is NOW. Forget yesterday, as today is the undeniable and unchangeable result of what you could’ve taken from it…
Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so don’t reserve all the honesty, rightfulness, and truthfulness of who you are, or put it on hold for later. Don’t count on “tomorrow” to make things right…

Create a life for yourself where there will be no need to be apologetic about the person that you are. There is nothing harder in life than living your authenticity, just as there is nothing more rewarding in life than living your authenticity.
RosieSandz
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