Early in January, I posted to my Facebook
page:
“The
realization that you are not the perfection you thought you were is actually
marvellous. Instead, you are becoming more and more aware that you are the
lucky one in the relationship… RS #TRULYBLESSED”
The hubby and I make a story…a long story.
A story that started 22 years ago and today marks 16 years of marriage… It’s a
story where the two main characters are compelling and complex… If we could
have imagined the plot of our story, it wouldn’t be, nor could it be, more
interesting than our life together has already been. We’ve had our share of
conflicts, our share of resolutions, our share of great moments, our share of
compromises, our share of happiness and joy, and ultimately many, many lessons
learned…
Years back in our marriage, when things
didn’t go the way I envisioned they could – and when we disagreed while faced
with challenging situations - it was always clear to me who was right and who
was obviously wrong. I’m sure you can
already guess who was what… (J)
Seriously, how convenient is it of us to always point the finger at the other
person, instead of trying to see how we
might have been the cause of the problem? That’s a tough pill to swallow.
Anyways, it definitely took years for me to realize that actions come from
reactions and reactions are simply responses to actions. It took years for me
to realize that my isht stunk just as
much as anyone else’s and I had to look in the mirror before demanding. And while
it took me years to realize the responsibility I held in this relationship and
the weight I carried towards the success of it, the hubby was there. He was accepting me for the person I am, not
trying to change me, and loving me even when at times; I made myself difficult
to love. And I am sure I wasn’t as graceful when the shoe was on the other foot…
So there we were, driving, talking about
the everyday issues we have to deal with, the kids, the house, the groceries… then
we suddenly started talking about more serious setbacks we are dealing with. We
laughed while concluding, “When it rains, it pours.” At that moment - one of
those moments where your heart and your entire body gets overflowed with love
for no good reason, and you feel like you are going to burst - I turned around,
stared at this beautiful man that is MY HUSBAND, reached for his hand and said,
“Baby, we are so good together. I love us.”
This was the eve of my post to Facebook.
While every day I am realizing that I am not flawless (but perfect for him),
the fact that I have the hubby as my
partner makes me feel like the luckiest woman on earth… yes, I am truly
blessed…
I read this quote from Bob Marley a long
time ago, and today more than ever I feel like it was advice HE personally gave
me. It was my story he was quoting. If today someone asked me what was the
secret to a great relationship, and what should they always keep in mind and
do, I would simply share 2 things. First thing is this perfect quote (because
this is us now… this is why we are still together now…)
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the
two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once,
causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes,
hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry,
he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him
that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect
for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell
when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there
is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy
that is perfect for you.”
~Bob Marley
And the second thing I would share is this
little piece of advice “In all
relationship what really matter is not the years we've put in but the time we
invested in those years...” ~RS
Regardless or because of life in our love our story, the hubby has always and still says “if we ever have to be over know it will be
because you left me. You got me for life I am going nowhere…”
Edit Piaf song says It’s him for me and me for him in life, he told me so, he swore it for
life. And I feel so at peace knowing that if and when we hit a bump on the
road I can truly trust in that statement which makes it easy to put our love
back on track…
So on this 14th of February I
will celebrate not the additional year that just pass, not the wish of a
successful one to come but the
certitude that I made the right choice
when I said yes back in 1997…
Who knows Edit Piaf song La vie en Rose?
“Des
yeux qui font baiser les miens.Un rire qui se perd sur sa bouche.
Voila
le portrait sans retouche de l'homme auquel, j'appartiens.
Quand il me prend dans ses bras, il me parle tout bas je vois la vie en rose…
Il me dit des mots d'amour des mots de tous les jours et ça me fait quelque chose…
Il est entré dans mon Coeur, une part de Bonheur dont je connais la cause.
C'est lui pour moi moi pour lui dans la vie, Il me l'a dit, l'a juré pour la vie…”
Quand il me prend dans ses bras, il me parle tout bas je vois la vie en rose…
Il me dit des mots d'amour des mots de tous les jours et ça me fait quelque chose…
Il est entré dans mon Coeur, une part de Bonheur dont je connais la cause.
C'est lui pour moi moi pour lui dans la vie, Il me l'a dit, l'a juré pour la vie…”
To the one who will go down in my life story
as the love of my life… The Hubby
Happy Anniversary!
RosieSandz
