Yesterday I sat trying to write a post about people's misery and the effect it can have on your life, and I remembered about this piece I wrote almost a year ago and how relevant it still is...
That is why I call my posts My Life Lessons...
Building Your Life While Your Joy is Being Stolen...
Many people live their
lives crucified between two thieves – the regrets of yesterday, and the
anxieties of tomorrow. ~ Erwin Lutzer
So many times, my happiness and joy have
been stolen by negativity, pessimism and nihilism…
I take a look at my life and can’t help but
think about my “now” and how I got where I am today. I look at the hurdles, the
pains, the doubts, all the times I revisited and re-evaluated decisions I’ve
made, all the times I wanted to give up and give in to pressure, and all the
times that I thought, “This is it, it’s not for you, move on…” The tears…the
endless tears because my 100% wasn’t enough, it wasn’t a guarantee. Then I had
to learn. I had to learn that even if my joy was (seemingly) being stolen from
me, I had to keep on building my life. Anything taken away is ultimately a
temporary state; all can be replaced and enhanced for deeper joy and
appreciation.
Life is made up of so many components. Some
are obvious and expected, while some are hidden under invisible folds that
catch you by surprise. Either way, on whichever side of the scale of what
predominantly happens in your life, we need to accept and understand that life
is made of good and bad moments and know that without the bad, the good
wouldn’t be so rewarding…
Don’t cry because of what you are going
through…smile because it happened and now it’s gone…
Although it’s normal to feel discouraged
and down after experiencing and holding on to anger, resentments, and emotional
upsets. Let go, free your heart! Forgive
the thieves, forgive the wrong doers in your life and make amends with whomever
you need to; what you will experience from forgiving will be rewarding and
joyous.
But most importantly, you need to remember
that you are not perfect. Your mistakes are part of your growth, so learn to
forgive yourself and embrace your imperfections.
When being deceived and surrounded by
negativity, everything at that moment takes on a greater proportion than what
it really is. Looking back on what you considered to be your biggest challenges,
in retrospect are now mere particles of your life’s puzzle… small stuff. When
put in perspective, you realize all those “small stuff’s” combined, are part of
life. They are what helps you build your character and find the strength to take
on more…
I’m not saying to live life expecting the
worst at all times, but what I am saying is to live life knowing challenges
may/will happen and to be ready for the lessons.
You have the power to hold on to your life,
happiness and joy…build your life and decide on the behaviour you want to
display.
While building our lives, we are not always
in control of our circumstances. Understanding that and the fact that many
things can happen, while stacking up the walls of your existence, are out of
your control. Having a vision and shaping your future is always a positive and
joyous project. Making it happen is where the challenge is, as the chasms on
the road can be very treacherous. Some past events will shape part of the
unforeseen future.
“There’s nothing so bad in this world that it couldn't
be worse” –Irish Proverbs
Keep building your life through a mixture
of circumstances and in the process don’t let your joy be taken away. Hold on
to it! What you will come across down your path and around the corner will
require and generate more joy!
RosieSandz
