“Happiness is living without expectations. “
~Peter Cajander
I’ll change it to “Peace of mind is living without
expectations upon others…” Do you catch the difference?
Expectations we have and develop towards people and
situations are created from our past experiences. Past situations allowed us to
set standards on how we want to be treated, and what behaviors are acceptable
or improper. It is part of human characters to projects onto our surroundings.
However we need to remember, that although natural, having
assumptions and (un)realistic expectations is the best way to harm any
situation we involve ourselves in. What is normal to me might not be normal for
the next person. Speak out your expectations; do not sabotage your own
experience by envisioning and not sharing what you expect.
Becoming aggravated and upset at someone who acted
differently than what you expected (because you didn’t share what you wanted)
could be more justifiable than toward someone you clearly didn’t care to share
your anticipations. We all have a
preconceived notion of what we want, don’t ruin your own experience by
presuming.
My Life Lesson today was:
“Avoid
unnecessary deception by not imposing your personal standards on others. What
you consider to be a common (or given) attitude (or even service rendered) may
simply not be within the ability of others. Your ordinary may be someone else’s
unimaginable.”
~Rose Sanderson
~Rose Sanderson
