“Evolve
throughout the course of your life's path. Grow in all your experiences but
remember to never let go of the true essence of your being. No matter what you
ultimately become, make sure you keep the connection deep within and the
ability to reconnect with who you originally were."
~Rose Sanderson
A little less than 2 weeks ago, I went on
one of my work trips. After working tirelessly for several hours, we finally
decided to take a break and have lunch before entering the last stretch of the
day. What was supposed to be a relaxing (thought free) moment, where the only
focus would be to fill up our empty bellies and reenergize, turned out to be
the total opposite…
I sat across from this beautiful young girl
who was very insightful. Her sensibility to me, her aura was to the point of
being gifted. She talked for a while. She told me stories and while I sat
across from her, I realized those where my stories. She stared into my eyes,
telling me my own life story through another woman’s story…her own mother’s
story.
We typically go through life believing who
and what we were yesterday needs to stay in the past and that we should only
focus on today, while thinking about the needs of tomorrow. My life's focus has
become my children and my husband. I want to be the perfect mother and this
with all the sacrifice the privilege entails. I want to be the indispensable
wife so that my husband's life couldn’t be imaginable without me.
In listening to what was to come in my
life, I realized that along the way, I have lost the essence of who I am. My
children, Jay and Jazzy, will soon be young adults and create lives for
themselves. And while I put so much focus on them, I have let meaningful
friendships/relationships take last slot on my priority list. I have managed to
be the indispensable wife; I have altered and changed the person the hubby fell
in love with. And while today I see the purpose of the decisions I made, what
about tomorrow? What about when the kids are gone? Will my friends still be
there? What about when it’s just me and him? Will I be able to bring back the
essence of who I am?
Her mom’s story could be my story; her
loneliness could be my future, her unhappiness could be mine…
She never stopped staring into my eyes
while telling the story of this woman - of her mother. And at the end while we
both had tears rolling down our cheeks she said, “Rose, let the mask down, go get your “sexy” back... go find that fun
Rose you lost somewhere along your life's journey. I would love to meet her and
many would love to welcome her back”…
Here is the Life Lesson I learned that
afternoon…
Be the strong woman you portray yourself to
be. Let your kids be kids and not your friends; not your purpose in life. Be
your own purpose. Let your happiness be the basis for which all will fall into
place. Be the indispensable wife, partner and lover your husband needs to have
by his side but don’t let go of who he fell in love with. Don’t let go of who
you are…nobody wants to wake up with a total stranger by their side, no one
wants to go through the different stages of life with a chameleon…
RosieSandz
