My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“Evolve throughout the course of your life's path. Grow in all your experiences but remember to never let go of the true essence of your being. No matter what you ultimately become, make sure you keep the connection deep within and the ability to reconnect with who you originally were."

~Rose Sanderson

         

A little less than 2 weeks ago, I went on one of my work trips. After working tirelessly for several hours, we finally decided to take a break and have lunch before entering the last stretch of the day. What was supposed to be a relaxing (thought free) moment, where the only focus would be to fill up our empty bellies and reenergize, turned out to be the total opposite…

I sat across from this beautiful young girl who was very insightful. Her sensibility to me, her aura was to the point of being gifted. She talked for a while. She told me stories and while I sat across from her, I realized those where my stories. She stared into my eyes, telling me my own life story through another woman’s story…her own mother’s story.

We typically go through life believing who and what we were yesterday needs to stay in the past and that we should only focus on today, while thinking about the needs of tomorrow. My life's focus has become my children and my husband. I want to be the perfect mother and this with all the sacrifice the privilege entails. I want to be the indispensable wife so that my husband's life couldn’t be imaginable without me.

In listening to what was to come in my life, I realized that along the way, I have lost the essence of who I am. My children, Jay and Jazzy, will soon be young adults and create lives for themselves. And while I put so much focus on them, I have let meaningful friendships/relationships take last slot on my priority list. I have managed to be the indispensable wife; I have altered and changed the person the hubby fell in love with. And while today I see the purpose of the decisions I made, what about tomorrow? What about when the kids are gone? Will my friends still be there? What about when it’s just me and him? Will I be able to bring back the essence of who I am?

Her mom’s story could be my story; her loneliness could be my future, her unhappiness could be mine…

She never stopped staring into my eyes while telling the story of this woman - of her mother. And at the end while we both had tears rolling down our cheeks she said, “Rose, let the mask down, go get your “sexy” back... go find that fun Rose you lost somewhere along your life's journey. I would love to meet her and many would love to welcome her back”…

Here is the Life Lesson I learned that afternoon…

Be the strong woman you portray yourself to be. Let your kids be kids and not your friends; not your purpose in life. Be your own purpose. Let your happiness be the basis for which all will fall into place. Be the indispensable wife, partner and lover your husband needs to have by his side but don’t let go of who he fell in love with. Don’t let go of who you are…nobody wants to wake up with a total stranger by their side, no one wants to go through the different stages of life with a chameleon…

RosieSandz