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Thursday, May 29, 2014

Still I Rise...


I’m a true believer that no one ever graduates from this thing call life or should be above the help of others. And I use the word “help” in the broadest way…
In life we are gifted many opportunities to better ourselves. Sometimes it is a direct, and obvious occasion. Sometimes it is a feeling, a connection you have with something or someone that screams to your soul, to your whole being. Growth, betterment will happen around that person or in that predicament, so you seek and welcome that contact…

There are people you need to KNOW to understand their message. There are those whose thoughts, words, and writings do not need a loud voice to speak to who you are and who you aspire to be. They lead you without actually physically leading you through an important phase in your life but every step you take you perceptively know who and what is guiding you. He or she could be a friend, a senior, a relative, a stranger…

“I've Learned That People Will Forget What You Said, People Will Forget What You Did, But People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel”~ Maya Angelou

When Maya Angelou wrote this sentence maybe she was talking about what she took away from her interaction with someone else. Maybe thru her journey, thru her earned wisdom she knew how important internal well being brought in from self, something or someone was equal to none and would last a lifetime…
Regardless of the source of this quote, there haven’t been truer words spoken…
Almost forewarning to every steps, decisions, attitude, choices we make…

I spend the day trying to solve one thing or another, troubleshooting or resolving 1 issue after another… Finally on my way home I look at my phone and I had a message from my cousin telling me she’d been looking for the blog I wrote 28 months ago about Maya Angelou and all the influences (at the time) in my life 2012- Inspiration Motivation Still I Rise . I thought it was weird that she specifically was looking for that one but didn’t think more of it… My sister in Love called me and after chitchatting for a few minutes she was finally said “my condolences Rose”. “What are you talking about” I said “You don’t know? Maya Angelou die this morning and I thought of you because of how much you love her…”

While there are time in my life when I’m not sure if life is passing me by or trying to run me over, what I have come to learn is that time is teaching me all I need to learn by putting the right people on my path…
July 2004 I had the privilege of sharing a moment with Maya Angelou; that interaction was one I will never forget. On that afternoon in July, I met one of the biggest inspirations in my life and to this day I can safely say I’ve never forgotten the way she made me feel. Her legacy will sustain the ambition I still hold in my heart and help me RISE so for that I’m forever thankful and in her debt.

Rest in Peace Dr. Maya Angelou

The Boston's Black Rose

RosieSandz

Sunday, April 6, 2014

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

Who You Are Speaks Louder To Me
Than Anything You Can Say
                                                                           Lee Ryan Miller


Many of us speak about ourselves in the way we would like to be seen and known for. Our lips tell a tale that is not necessarily our exact truth while our actions depict us to the T…
We have to remember to be true to ourselves and represent with no false pretense… 
One of the hardest withstanding life lessons is that living our beliefs takes more than speaking about them and acting upon our beliefs will speak louder about the person we are than who we say we are…
Life is no competition. It is a page in a book where we have the opportunity of leaving our mark. 
Your truth is the only think you can live…make sure whatever that truth is, it is not a misrepresentation of who you said you were.

How you live your life speaks more eloquently about who you really are than who you say you are…
RosieSandz

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

The Investment I made For Myself...

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.
Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice.
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
Everything else is secondary."
- Steve Jobs



I'm not here because I'm the smartest of them all… On the contrary, I am lucky enough to be surrounded by wonderful, intelligent people, who teach me something every single day... They teach me (either purposefully or unbeknownst to them) things I didn't know but needed to know...
Case and point - In any environment, you will encounter those who feel that the very fact you are in the position you're in, is an insult to them, because of the road it took for you to get there. And then you will also encounter those who take time to see the good you bring. Those people will usually offer you the support and appreciation you sometimes need to feed of off, to keep you motivated and going for more and better.
It’s amazing, the expectations we impose on people but mainly that we impose on our children…

I was a very carefree young girl and all I really cared about was dancing and hanging out with my friends. So far from the ideology my parents had for me. Among 11 brothers and sisters, only my brother DD (J) and I stood out as the "odd ones," as school was never a priority of ours and our friends were not all to the approval of my parents. Recently, my mom was here and we had a good laugh - reminiscing of the past and how I used to have her so stressed out. The one story that always comes to my mind (with still a genuine level of amazement) is when at the age of 16, I got my first and ONLY beat down in my life, period! But the more important fact was, that 1st experience was given to me by one of my parents; my mother.
She had received a call from someone who was looking for me because I was late to the set of a music video I was cast in. That day, as soon as I stepped through the doors of our home, it felt like I entered the 4th dimension. As soon as she uttered the words, "Where are you coming from," I knew the tone of her voice was just different… That’s the only thing I think I had time to analyze (the tone of her voice) before begging for help from my brothers, sisters and even Jesus (while I had become a living punching bag)...

To this day, although I was well bruised afterwards, the pain is not what I remember…
I just remembered thinking, “Wow… My mom beat me… naaaaahhhh, it can’t be!” But the look my brothers and sisters gave me confirmed it…Yes, she actually did beat me…
And ‘till this day, even though I know her rationale, I still don’t understand it. Her perception of who I was and what I did, was so different from who I actually was, that I couldn’t, and even now can’t understand… But I get it…

The investment I made for myself is to create this fundamental principle I decided to obey from that point forward - “Know that not everybody will understand your choices or your needs, not everybody will recognize or appreciate your worth and ideals, and not everyone will welcome your opinion or input, BUT just as long every step you take is made for the betterment of yourself and this by standing by your choices, be unwavering when it comes to your standards. And by understanding others' right to disagree with you, you will amount to something!”
While I was considered a “rebel” among my book-worm siblings and by my parents, I made sure I invested in myself. I placed a bet on the only thing I could control, and that is me… I trusted that I would know best for myself and would make decisions that would directly benefit me...
At the end, it is the person you will build yourself to be that will demonstrate the true success of who you are. It is the bits and pieces you will keep as references; it is what you will hold on to along the way that will show the true investment you made for yourself. Whether you abide by your own creed and follow through is up to you to decide. You can't live by someone else's philosophy, and then live in regret when what works for them doesn't yield the same results to you!

On my way to the airport for another business trip, I got to talking with a family friend. He said, “Rose, you need to make sure you remind the kids everyday why you do the things you do… Why you sacrifice the time you could have with them by being away from them. Remind them to work hard every single day because they should strive to be their own boss one day and along that way, they should be able to provide for themselves… Tell them, Rose, the reason you are doing all you do is to provide for them the right opportunities. Keep telling them how important school is and how college should be their number one priority…” So funny… Those were the same words my parents use to say when trying to make us understand the decisions they made or were making. Funny, because back then I used to think, “Whatever, it’s all a bunch of blah blah blahs…”
But now I get it… So I said to him, “You are so right not everyone will be as lucky as me!”
“No Rose” he said, “It’s not luck, you worked hard to be where you are, you may not have taken the easiest way but you took the way that felt comfortable for you and you learned. You applied and learned some more”…

I was on the plane thinking of this conversation and I realized for a quick minute, I forgot about my principle. And I realized how when you become a parent yourself, your frame of mind takes a slight left from what you had been marching to for years. True enough, nothing is ever just “luck,” especially when success is involved.
Don’t lessen what you’ve accomplished because of the unconventional way you went about it. It actually takes discipline. The "rite of passage" for a parent is to be able to say I’ve been there, I’ve done that and I want to save you from the unnecessary trials and errors and show you the quickest safest way to a successful life… I truly get it now…

RosieSandz

Sunday, March 2, 2014

My Sunday quote of The week...

“When a great moment knocks on the door of your life, it is often no louder than the beating of your heart, and it is very easy to miss it.”
― Boris Pasternak



So many times I talk about enjoying our journey, maybe because it is one of my biggest life lessons to live. Every day I have to remind myself that my moments, every single one of them (good or bad), are shaping the life I live today. I need to be able to look back at what was with fondness and appreciation because it did build my present and it helps sustain the desire to keep going thru harder, more challenging or even just enjoyable moments. While I don’t want to be mired by my past, I need to unmistakably acknowledge it is the foundation of my tomorrow. Every part of our journeys are made with delights and rewards that we only discover after seeking them out not because they are all of a sudden relevant or because we want to stay in the past but because if we don’t validate our past moments and appreciate our journey, we won’t be able to fully go thru life…


We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware while beautifully small ones are created with each step we take.  Big or small, hold on dearly to your moments…put them together because those will amount to be your legacy, those will be the memories you’ll need to keep you moving forward...

RosieSandz

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Remembering Who I am...

“The closer you come to knowing that you alone create the world of your experience, the more vital it becomes for you to discover just who is doing the creating.”
~ Eric Micha'el Leventhal




Well, February is almost gone and I haven’t posted a thing on my blog or even worked on anything for that matter. That's not so good. But let’s talk about being buried under a shit load of work and being pulled away from all my extremities!!! Yes - that is how I feel right now and so I’ll use that as a reason for all the things I can’t get to. 
So it’s 2:30(ish) in the AM, and I’m thinking of the work I have to get done in a couple of hours. While the mental to do list is getting longer and longer, the need to make this day the “start over” of my weekly routine prevails over the need of sleep. I got about 2.5 hours of sleep yesterday, and will probably pull the same amount of sleep today but I’ll be darned if I don’t have a post out of thisJ.

Well, for those that might not know me or have forgotten about me (just that quickly), I am Rosiesandz. For those who have been returning to my page, patiently waiting for an update, I’m still alive… Great place to be when thinking of the alternative, right?
It’s amazing how personal commitment can take over your life, to the point that when you don’t meet your personal goals, schedule or expectations, you feel a small sense of failure. So before I sink deep into that self-pity mode, I look around and realize that time awaits no one. Life keeps marching on (that’s for every single one of us) and sometimes when I look and think at the millions of “things” I have to do, attend to and hopefully accomplish, blogging (or sometime the random rambling of my thoughts like what’s happening today) has sadly become very low on the totem-pole of my priorities!

It seems like keeping up with things that I love (and enjoy) doing or simply maintaining an even-keeled temper, so I can be enjoyable at all times around the people that I love, is a battle I have conceded…unknowingly. BUT… isn’t it always like that? Changes for the worst always creep up on you and surface when you least expect it (or maybe, just maybe it’s that you just chose to ignore the changes until it is too late).
I was told that I seem on edge lately; that I am quickly aggravated and annoyed. I let my mind wander; it drifts towards vainly attempting to understand if it’s an accurate assessment of my current behavior, or if it is just someone else’s personal perception.
Yes, my routine has changed… Yes, right now I feel like I’m in the corporate world, getting paid the minimum hourly wage due to the amount of working hours my days consist of (so you know this is not a great feeling L)… Yes, I’m extremely sensitive and at times, irritable… Yes, juggling kids, the hubby, our home and work has proven to be challenging at times BUT its one thing for you to realize that world you only are momentarily stuck in, instead of thinking that this world is yours forever! So while I can recognize that I’ve lost some of the good in me, somewhere along my journey, I need to make sure it’s just a temporary loss. It’s time to jump back on the saddle of who I know myself to be and not continue to promote this new era that people perceive me (or things concerning me) to be at a very basic level, the level of this moment!

Seriously, stuff is thrown at us all day long. Some of it is so understated that we don't even recognize it and it flies below our radar. But it's good to remember that just because someone tells you something about their perception of you and your attitude; it doesn't mean it's true. Even if, and even more, it comes from the most genuine, loving caring place - you better make sure it's your truth before you accept it... particularly if it's a judgment on your character…and behavior!
With age we become stubborn and steadfast about who we “know we are” and while there is no smoke without a fire, we also need to be our own defense lawyer… and that is something I am figuring out now more than ever.
Anyways, along this train of thought, I am going to end by saying…

While all that I am – genuinely and truthfully, laid out for everyone to see and know or who I am behind closed doors, secretly - is always all clearly laid out for HIM to see, I can tell you that HE is still my number one fan!
With that being said, who I am, isn’t reliant on who anyone thinks I am. Who I am is reliant on who I know myself to be (with no fallacies on my part) and it is time for me to reconnect with who I am and be me all over again so my love ones are not worried, or confused…

“Sometimes we live our lives like puzzle pieces turned upside down - only showing the world our gray sides. Then along comes life, and it starts flipping them over, showing to us and the world more than just the outline of who we are - it shows us the colors. If we can start to turn more over and put them together, we can see the picture of who we really emerge.”
~ Manifest

RosieSandz

Sunday, February 2, 2014

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

My Sunday Quote of The Week…


“Whatever opens us is never
as important as what it opens…” 
~Mark Nepo 



My journey continues thru understanding the lessons God, life tries to teach us…
My Life Lessons is the journey into looking beyond the obvious, the expedition in understanding the why(s) of events in my day to day, the realization that the answer(s) of what we pursue isn’t all or nothing but it is all AND nothing…
We need to see beyond the obvious answers as there is always a depth waiting to be uncovered and understood.
Trust onward… Be authentic and truthful…listen to the voice inside you; listen to wisdom whispering all that is meaningful and purposeful to your growth, learn to see pass what opens you and see the possibilities that it may open…

Cheers to a new year full of Life Lessons

Love Always
RosieSandz

Sunday, January 5, 2014

My Sunday Quote of The Week...

“To live abundantly, you have to race toward the future
with arms and heart wide open.
You have to risk everything
and let the universe take care of the details”
~Elaine Hussey



So many times I say to myself, my life is exactly what and how it is meant to be, and I'm okay. I AM OKAY… I'm not perfect, I'm not complete, but I'm okay. But am I really?
I’m realizing so clearly the reason why I question myself is because I haven’t mastered enjoying my moment…this moment I am in now. I have not mastered how to not let the worry of the future, of the incomplete take a bite of my now…

I can’t keep on waiting for the day where I can’t wake up, turn my head and enjoy my blessings because I’m worried about the ones I deem late… I need to focus on where my feet are at this moment, look around and listen to the inner power of my soul, feel the joy within, welcome the love that surround me, feel the breeze and hear life Happening, Right Now, Right Here!
I need to stop allowing life’s ups and downs dictate how I feel and look to maintain a more positive tone. I need to hear the message my life gives me every day I open my eyes. Hear the message of thankfulness, appreciation. I have to be willing to dig deep when I’m in doubt, lighten up when I feel down, and be painstakingly honest with myself when I want to hide then…maybe then I will indeed truly live and appreciate “my moment”.

Your moment is always with you (but sometimes we just don't see it) so instead of having lonely thoughts of what should have been or what could be, deal with what "is" regardless of what it is.
I need to not only know but truly accept that all things that have happened in the past, good or bad, have happened for a reason, and have all conspired to lead me to the moment I am in now

So if you are like me struggling at time to appreciate your blessings, your moment; embrace your life, and remember that everything you do is a moment, even the little things…

“Imagine what your life would be like if you were completely uninhibited by fear, pride, or procrastination. What would you be capable of? Anything.”
~ Richie Norton


RosieSandz

Friday, January 3, 2014

Deep Thought Friday...

Deep Thought Friday

My posts are usually about My Life Lessons. These are the things I’ve lived through, witnessed and now talk about how they’ve affected me. In some instances, these things still affect me. While some of those things are actual facts/events, some are readings and information that is passed on to me.
I want to change things a little. I want this new “Deep Thought Friday” series to be more than a casual stop on my blog for the latest read.
I want to allow you to come up with your own conclusion to a situation… with your own moral of the story. I want to see if you can connect with a particular story in such a way that it will give you a sense of purpose, a new direction or perspective, and maybe just maybe - think deeper and further than usual.

As you read, discuss the moral in each story with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. Connect every story with yourself. Challenge yourself. Think about what you’ve learned from the story and what change you can bring to your life.



This week “Deep Thought Friday” is about how we CONDITION ourselves…how we LIMIT ourselves…

Conditioned to lose...
An eagle's egg was placed in the nest of a prairie chicken. The egg hatched and the little eagle grew up thinking it was a prairie chicken. The eagle did what the prairie chickens did. It scratched in the dirt for seeds. It clucked and cackled. It never flew more than a few feet because that is what the prairie chickens did. One day he saw an eagle flying gracefully and majestically in the open sky. He asked the prairie chickens: "What is that beautiful bird?" The chickens replied, "That is an eagle. He is an outstanding bird, but you cannot fly like him because you are just a prairie chicken." So the eagle never gave it a second thought, believing that to be the truth. He lived the life of and died a prairie chicken, depriving himself of his heritage because of his lack of vision.
What a waste! He was born to win, but was conditioned to lose

“All the power of the universe is within us, it is we who are putting hands on our eyes and saying that it is dark.”

~Swami Vivekananda
RosieSandz
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