Saturday, April 30, 2016

My 45th Moment in Life...

45 is a solid number; a number that demanded to be celebrated. Or so I thought…

I planned in my head how grandiose I wanted it to be (after all, it needed to at least exceed my 40th celebration). 
April 30th, 2016 in my world, needed to be all about me. It needed to be about what I thought was a milestone in my life. 
And then things changed. Life happened...

The Hubby’s work obligations were going to take him away during my weekend. Upset, was putting mildly how I felt. So when work obligations started to modify my schedule to accommodate projects we've been working on, I let my availability remain open. After all, things were no longer unfolding the way I imagined. 

I don't know about you but I tend to assume milestones are universal... That for each and one of us, they are the same… But are they really? 

Births, certain (or all) birthdays, engagements, marriages, graduations, job achievements, job successes... These are most of the times labelled milestones or “rites of passage,” but are they really? 
Shouldn't they be referenced as expected moments in life, rather than milestones?

I've come to realize that WE, not society, determine what our milestones (our check points thru life) are, and their timing...
We forget that they are personal (to who we are and who we are meant to be). 
Milestones, when reached or achieved, will redirect slightly (or juristically) our life's course, unlike given "moments in life" throughout our journey. 

So I now understand…
With years, life becomes exponentially more complex and harder to decipher. Our expectation level of what's important and meaningful also heightens with each year; hence milestones become far, few and in-between as we grow older. Those will most likely be celebrated in private, unless you chose to share their occurrences as they unfold.

April 30th 2016, marks my birthday, and that of many others. And while it is certainly not a milestone in my life (the course of my life has not changed to the slightestJ), I love how the people in my world/life are making me feel specially loved through it. 
Thank you for having taken the time to think about me, bless me with so many well wishes and to have simply reminded me that no matter where, no matter with who and no matter how… life moments happen y’all there to cheer me on!

Thank you!

Saturday, April 23, 2016

These shoulders were never made to carry the world…

“Sometimes not sharing your worries, the load everyday life occurrences leave on your path, is a gift to others but a disservice to yourself.
Remember even if sharing your burden won’t change a thing, your shoulders were never made to carry the world”

When your whole being, (your appearance, personality, etc.) makes people see you as this "strong person" that can withstand anything life throws at you…

“Maybe they get shaken, get offbeat but in a split second I know they will be back on target, they have all the solutions… They are it and that is what they do… they carry the world!”

The personality or the appearance of someone never makes them who they are. It definitely doesn’t make them stronger; even if they seem to always stand strong against life's many trials. 
We all have a weakness. 
We all have a soft spot that can be greatly affected, especially when we least expect it. 
There's always that helpless (blind) side to us that needs support… It may be something that might not challenge us now, today, tomorrow or for a long period of time but it will affect us some day.

Maybe taking a step back will help people see the shoes that they wear, are very similar to the ones they are wearing.
Maybe… Yes maybe, the one you consider to be the strongest link in the equation is actually only as strong as the team that surrounds them. A link is something that holds a collection of things together, like in a chain and a chain is made with several links...

We all need to remember that our castle is only as strong as the quality of bricks we use…
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