45 is a solid number; a number that demanded to be
celebrated. Or so I thought…
I planned in my head how grandiose
I wanted it to be (after all, it needed to at least exceed my 40th
celebration).
April 30th, 2016 in my world, needed to be all about me. It
needed to be about what I thought was a milestone in my life.
And then things changed. Life happened...
The Hubby’s work
obligations were going to take him away during my weekend. Upset, was
putting mildly how I felt. So when work obligations started to modify my
schedule to accommodate projects we've been working on, I let my availability remain
open. After all, things were no longer unfolding the way I imagined.
I don't know about you but I tend to assume milestones are
universal... That for each and one of us, they are the same… But are they
really?
Births, certain (or all) birthdays, engagements, marriages,
graduations, job achievements, job successes... These are most of the times
labelled milestones or “rites of passage,” but are they really?
Shouldn't they be referenced as expected moments in life, rather
than milestones?
I've come to realize that WE, not society,
determine what our milestones (our check points thru life) are, and their
timing...
We forget that they are personal (to who we are and who we
are meant to be).
Milestones, when reached or achieved, will redirect slightly
(or juristically) our life's course, unlike given "moments in life"
throughout our journey.
So I now understand…
With years, life becomes exponentially more complex and
harder to decipher. Our expectation level of what's important and meaningful
also heightens with each year; hence milestones become far, few and in-between
as we grow older. Those will most likely be celebrated in private, unless you chose
to share their occurrences as they unfold.
April 30th 2016, marks my birthday, and that of many others.
And while it is certainly not a milestone in my life (the course of my life has
not changed to the slightestJ), I love how the people in my world/life are making
me feel specially loved through it.
Thank you for having taken the time to think about me, bless
me with so many well wishes and to have simply reminded me that no matter
where, no matter with who and no matter how… life moments happen y’all there to
cheer me on!
Thank you!
RosieSandz
